I finally made the decision to stand up for myself to my family.
I told them I no longer wanted to be a part of the situation that is concerning Thomas, his ex-wife and the kids and all I have received in return is hate. They cover it with sickly sweet niceties in public and on paper, but in reality its nothing but deceit and revolting hate. They blame me for things that hold no truth, lie about everything that concerns Thomas and his 'family' on his request and belittle me by using the kids. I can only be told I'm a disappointment, a user, a manipulator, a grudge holding recluse, etc, so much before I snap. I've been dealing with all this drama and manipulation for the last year in an attempt to be the supportive family member, Thomas's best friend, the best aunt I could be and all I have had happen is be used. I've given so much time, feelings and let's be frank, MONEY that I've literally destroyed almost my whole life. I have literally no love life, the men I have chasing me want nothing to do with me if my family is involved. I almost lost my really nice government job at the university twice trying to help Thomas. I've had my utilities turned off, my internet, my phone and had to ask for help 3 different times to pay my rent in the last year because I have been taking my money and paying for things for the family, I've paid rent, phone bill, food, clothing, school supplies, gas money, etc for Thomas and his kids and I have nothing to show for it.
They literally used me all over again. I thought I had them all figured out after high school and the moment I let them back in 5 years later, they pull the same stunts...the only difference is that Thomas is the same as the rest of them. He is worse then them in some ways even.
Nothing I do will ever be good enough for any of them. Ever. Its times like these that I wish they had never moved back to Iowa. What little life I have to live shouldn't be wasted on people that bring me down and I've realized the 'support' network I have is one of the worst things in my life.
I guess its time to go back to the way it was. Family is over rated.